Motherhood is a tough gig, but for the most part women who struggle with the workload just get on with it without complaint.
While most love their kids unconditionally, occasionally a form of remorse for lost freedoms can creep in, something mums often don't speak about. Recently a Reddit thread posed the question 'Do you ever regret having kids?'.
And as to be expected, the online forum was flooded with honest replies. From those who missed their pre-parenting lives to another who admitted she would have been 'happier child-free', here FEMAIL takes a look at some of the best.Kicking off the thread was a particularly pointed comment by one mother, Delicatef*****flower, who wrote: '[I regret having kids] several times a day.
I also swell with love for them several times a day. I like my kids, I don't like momming [sic].' Another commenter quickly chimed in with the reply: 'This is perfect. I need to save it.' A third added: 'Not regret anymore, but for a long time I did. Turns out that for me, on the fence means no. I did the best I could and he's a pretty great person, but I would have been far happier being child free.
'Some posting to the thread touched on the challenges of parenting, with many saying this is something they hadn't expected to be so difficult. 'I didn't realize how much I would struggle with parenting. And my spouse is not as helpful as I thought he would be with parenting,' one woman wrote. 'I really wish I knew myself better before deciding to be a parent,' she added.
'I didn't grow up hearing parents (women in particular) discussing the realities of parenting so I was unprepared for the anxiety, stress, and challenges associated with responsibly caring for another human being (often with very little support).'Others spoke about how life was easier with fewer children and how parenting wasn't always what it seemed. 'Yes. I love my babies but life was easier when I only had one. I had two more,' one mother wrote. 'Just so you are aware of a well-hidden secret... no one ever really has their s*** together.
Everyone is just winging it,' another said. 'I'm 39 with 2 kids, husband, House, decent job... and I have no freaking clue what I'm doing.''And I do want to say that I thought I would have my s*** together by now but only recently realized that no one I know is truly on top of their game.' Another adding her thoughts to the conversation wrote: 'Yes, there are moments when parenting sucks.
'That's not regret, that's life. But I can't imagine my life without my kids so I wouldn't go back and change it. 'Mothers also shared their innermost thoughts about their lives following the birth of their kids. 'Yes, having a child is a huge change. And of course, sometimes we feel like it was a bad move,' wrote one mother. 'When they are tiny and you've only slept four hours in the past three days. You regret having kids, buuuuut [sic] you still get up and feed and change and cuddle the baby.'
'My daughter is my entire world and I love her with everything that I am but yes, I still have regrets about giving birth to her, another wrote. 'My life is 100 per cent different than before and it hasn't been an easy adjustment. She is almost three and I'm just now starting to see slivers of my old self again.'I lost myself to motherhood and breastfeeding which is beautiful in its own right, but once again, still not easy.'
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